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Like the cricket team that starts to play only in the last 5 overs, I write this only in the last lap of my bachelorhood... Yes.. I confidently state " last lap of my bachelorhood" 'coz I see it coming and I see the horizon of transition of being a Mrs. exemplifying the Doppler's Effect..! As I begin this post, my mind is full of non-co linear dots which.. hopefully I'll be able to connect at the end to form a beautiful 3D picture....
You know..being struck by the marriage lightning bolt .. and pressing L at least once daily on FB wall that is filled with engagement/marriage/honeymoon/cute baby pics or any such status updates ..I am reminded of few random moments from my life.....and m sure at some point or the other it happened to you too....
1. That one soft focus and background blurring look from the one who tingles ur brain and heart beat racing.....
2. That debate over Live-in and Marriage where Marriage won and seemed practical.. but Live-in got the maximum whistles....
3. That joke where arranged marriage is said to be synonymous to murder while love marriage is to suicide...
4. That scribbling of FLAMES at the back of the notebook... even on bench....
5. That determination to understand Life Sciences-II....
6. That time when you giggled just because you got to know or saw your friend wears a brassiere or CK underwear with RED band...or well.. just about anything......
Those were the times when the word marriage itself brought a wide grin ... and we did not know.. marriage was more than .. just a baby manufacturing system (BMS)...As we grow... as I grew.... I learnt that the SOP (statement of purpose) of marriage is quite not just BMS... but much more... and for that much more to have a good sync... n no. of variables and dimensions are to be taken care of... If age.. height.. weight.. complexion.. health are one thing... the educational qualification...family background...job are another.. and lifestyle issues and home-talents..(for girls esp. *Unlike*) .. are yet another dimension.... with so many variables... it almost seems like there should be an algorithm to solve the mystery of the best glove-hand fit..... and yes how can I forget the CAPITAL R's....Region..Religion and Race... (*Unlike*)...
Even if all these things are worked out.. the human behavior sync is the 5th hurdle... the gal-boy thing... the relativity of human behavior with worldly situations etc etc...Being fortunate enough to have studied in a co-ed and a weak sex ratio country... the difference between pinks and blues are not so alien to me.. Yet .. my Mother being protective as always advised me a book on the same matter... which still remains un-opened for now.....
I am puzzled at times coz.... in our country... just when a guy or a gal successfully clears the confusion and curiosity over puberty and starts settling with college and job.. the entire family .. that is including the extended family and friends begin googling for the perfect glove or the hand as the case may be. The chaos and tense atmosphere surrounding this inevitable run-through is more insane than a job search...but then.. it is no greater tornado that spins in vitro the guy or the gal to accept the simple fact...This is it..!! Its time..... Also uncertainty of the future hits you hard... and.. in marriages.. I was told.. once committed.. its like till death do us apart.....!! Its like eating vanilla ice-cream for rest of your life.. may be occasionally discovering the hidden nuts and chocolate chips....
If you have already found your soul mate by yourself... great... go ahead... tell it to your parents.. after all they insist.. they too are your friends....and if you had kept their "criteria" of perfect fit in your mind and then Googled yourself a partner... awesome... wait a minute... your story... is gonna be legen...wait for it..darryyy..!!But if you did NOT keep the criteria in mind... then you are doomed... either you attend your communication skill classes well and work it out.. or do the filmy love saga...or just forget it... its NOT gonna happen..In case you have not found yourself one.. then no problem... your parents will be all the more pleased to help you.... and in case you decide to let go your love coz you don't wanna hurt you families... its gonna be tough to tame the tornado....
The bottom line in any case and at any stage however remains the same.... to find a mate that not only respects you.. cares for you ..gives u ur space..and syncs with you... but also puts a smile on your face each day..each night.. in whatever small way...so that when you sleep you can say to yourself.. yeah... that's the best decision of my life... so that you can tell him or her... "marrying you was the awesomest thing I had or ever could do in my life.."... After all you can hop jobs... but not lives....
Having said all this... I now declare.. I too am under the Google radar... surviving the tornado with hopes in my heart...just as my future companion...waiting for each other to be discovered...by each other of course.. in this vast ocean of human population..so all you friends... don't be surprised if one day your FB wall displays my cover photo of wedding rings... :)
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